Why Do I Love You
Why I Love You
Yesterday I told you my view on love. But this time, I will tell again. With it, you can easily find out why I love you.
Love, belongs to the class of relationships, thus my model(or my view on all relationships) would work on it. In my view, all relationships are meeting the 3 requests of humans - they are biological sexual needs, spiritual or emotional needs, as well as financial needs. For anybody who wants to go close to me, I would guess what value can I bring to him/her. The same will I do when I want to go close to one. If I can’t bring any good to him, I can’t find a reason that he does so. Therefore, I would be alert. If I feel I can’t bring good to one, I won’t go very close to him. Upmost, I will just be a normal friend or less.
As to a job, you and your boss are in a relationship based on financial needs. You make profits for him and he pays salaries to you. Additionally, you may have also emotional needs. The company is a dream of him or the job is a dream for you. You are happy doing this.
As to a friendship, the two are just in an emotional relationship or financial. But the emotional is usually more. The friends support and encourage each other, some may fund the other one. If between male and female, there may be also some sexual…
Finally, we come to love. Love, same as the other. The couple may support each other in need, just like a pair of friends. They may live together. So there’s a part of the financial needs. And, the one you may have paid more attention to, the appearance, just the same as the figure, is sexual needs.
Knowing this, I think you may know why I love you.
You thought I was just loving your appearance. That means that you thought of me just for sex. Frankly speaking, in the beginning, there did be. That time might be the moment that we meet. (Yes, so long time ago) And you may still remember, I didn’t say any words about love at that time. I knew, if I just loved your appearance or figure (for sex), the relationship won’t last long.
A few months later, I found you are very excellent. Though it’s not to say clever, your hard work fixed some intellectual shorts, to some certain extent. For example, you can play the piano while I can play the guitar and a little piano. And you are doing hard at school, which is the same as me at the time. And we did play some small games, and we had fun. I thought we were hearty friends. And it’s just that time, I told you I love you for the first time. Then I failed.
Later, when I teach you something new or help you solve the test questions, you were learning quickly! That’s of course to say smart. I feel you are so humble saying you’re not smart. So being humble is another advantage of you.
And, you’re persistent. Do you still remember the time you want to quit being an air attendant? I knew it was hard. But we talked about this. And you had a talk with your parents. Finally, you decided to keep doing it. And you kept your word. You’re working on this, and being closer and closer to your dream job. Your persistence is another point I love.
You’re also considerate. Every time I feel unhappy and seek help from you, you would be patient with me.(actually it’s not often) I feel very relieved about that. A mutual understanding and mutual support and encouragement are needed in a relationship no matter what.
At last, it’s not that I do not care about appearance, nor do I have no sexual desire. But you’re pretty to me. You feel you are not pretty may because that Korea has many pretty girls and you’re not the best one. But for me, that’s enough. You needn’t be a perfect one. It’s not with any single part of you to make up you Yang Ga Yoen. It’s you that I love, not any single part, never only appearance.
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